Let’s face it.
When our romantic relationship is in a good place- we are our happiest. The food we eat tastes good, our beds are comfortable, we appreciate what we have and feel we can face any challenge.
When our relationship is not in a good place- nothing makes us feel more depressed. Even silly things agitate us.
Our life is replete with preventative measures.
We checkup with our doctors and dentists at least once a year, bring our pets to the vet, change the oil of our cars every 3,000 miles, and even tune up our Teslas!
It would make sense to ensure the most significant relationship you have in your life is built on strong foundations.
Before I got married, I had these same questions and therefore chose not to engage in counseling.
Believe it or not, 14 years later, my marriage is solid. But, getting there was way more challenging than I anticipated!
I vividly recall the day after I completed the first level of Emotionally Focused Therapy, calling my supervisor and relating, “I know I have a good marriage, but I want to attend an EFT marital workshop with my wife!”
He responded, “That’s so funny. When I finished the course, I actually asked my wife to attend the workshop with me, too!”
Even though we both felt our marriages were good, we now knew that the qualitative difference between good and great is priceless!
So, what is the single ingredient offered in an EFT workshop that deepens the quality of connection?
When defining love, Maimonides, a 12th century philosopher wrote “Love is the emotional pleasure a human being experiences when he understands and focuses on the virtues of another human being.”
In other words, the more depth one shares with their partner, the more opportunity for love. This is called emotional intimacy and it lies at the heart of a healthy relationship.
It’s ironic that “Intimacy” can also be read as “In-To-Me-See'' because our longing is to be seen, accepted, and embraced in our most vulnerable and deepest places.
Emotional intimacy is the single most important ingredient in any relationship. It is how
real trust is built so that you can take on life’s demands and challenges with confidence.
It also sets the foundations for couples to overcome more acute relationship obstacles, namely:
The premarital workshop will cultivate your ability to look beyond shortcomings of your partner so that you can appreciate them in their totality.
This will enable you to embrace each other’s positives and negatives.
Emotional intimacy is an ongoing lifetime endeavor, but in just 5 sessions, we can lay the foundations to feel that deeper connection.
Session 1 delves into the role of attachment during childhood and its potential influence on the couple's current and future relationship.
Session 2 focuses on communication, both verbal and non-verbal. Learn to differentiate between the superficial content of conversation, how to connect through deeper communication, and the art of listening.
Session 3 prepares couples with practical tools for the inevitable disagreements and "hurts" that arise in every relationship. Learn to be able to navigate through issues and differences in a more productive manner and the detrimental impact of avoiding conflict, appeasing to keep peace, and fighting to “find the bad guy.”
Session 4 Couples get a deeper sense of how their attachment styles impact their most basic physical connection. They will learn the art of sexual intimacy and explore new ways to view sexuality from their partner’s perspective.
Session 5 Couples begin the process of developing and implementing new rituals and traditions to enrich their marital and familial relationships.
Analyzing these strategies in action during the beginning of marriage can save a lot of heartache later on.
That is why in addition to the 5 workshop sessions, I include 2-3 follow-up sessions within the first year.
You and your partner deserve the best chance of a lasting love
Let’s face it.
When our romantic relationship is in a good place- we are our happiest. The food we eat tastes good, our beds are comfortable, we appreciate what we have and feel we can face any challenge.
When our relationship is not in a good place- nothing makes us feel more depressed. Even silly things agitate us.
Our life is replete with preventative measures.
We checkup with our doctors and dentists at least once a year, bring our pets to the vet, even change the oil of our cars every 3,000 miles!
It would make sense to ensure the most significant relationship you have in your life is built on strong foundations.
Before I got married, I had these same questions and therefore chose not to engage in counseling.
Believe it or not, 14 years later, my marriage is solid. But, getting there was way more challenging than I anticipated!
Having a cohesive plan at the onset would have been very helpful.
I vividly recall the day after I completed the first level of Emotionally Focused Therapy, calling my supervisor and relating, “I know I have a good marriage, but I want to attend an EFT marital workshop with my wife!”
He responded, “That’s so funny. When I finished the course, I actually asked my wife to attend the workshop with me, too!”
Even though we both felt our marriages were good, we now knew that the qualitative difference between good and great is priceless!
So, what is the single ingredient offered in an EFT workshop that deepens the quality of connection?
When defining love, Maimonides, a 12th century philosopher wrote “Love is the emotional pleasure a human being experiences when he understands and focuses on the virtues of another human being.”
In other words, the more depth one shares with their partner, the more opportunity for love. This is called emotional intimacy and it lies at the heart of a healthy relationship.
It’s ironic that “Intimacy” can also be read as “In-To-Me-See'' because our longing is to be seen, accepted, and embraced in our most vulnerable and deepest places.
Emotional intimacy is the single most important ingredient in any relationship. It is how real trust is built so that you can take on life’s demands and challenges with confidence.
It also sets the foundations for couples to overcome more acute relationship obstacles, namely:
The premarital workshop will cultivate your ability to look beyond shortcomings of your partner so that you can appreciate them in their totality. This will enable you to embrace each other’s positives and negatives.
Emotional intimacy is an ongoing lifetime endeavor, but in just 3 sessions, we can lay the foundations to feel that deeper connection.
Session 1 focuses on distinguishing between the superficial content of couple's arguments and the emotional process that underlies them, as well as providing strategies for effectively expressing emotion.
Session 2 delves into the role of attachment during childhood and its potential influence on the couple's current and future relationship.
Session 3 prepares couples with practical tools for conflict de-escalation and easy strategies for creating emotional intimacy.
Analyzing these strategies in action during the beginning of marriage can save a lot of heartache later on.
That is why in addition to the 3 workshop sessions, you can choose to add two follow-up sessions within the first year.
You and your partner deserve the best chance of a lasting love…
"Pinny, we would both like to thank you for sharing tools that will help us better communicate and understand each other. Moving forward we know that the road may not always be as smooth as we would like it to be but we feel that we have the skills to navigate whatever challenges are thrown our way."
-H.S., Premarital Workshop
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