Just suck it up and keep moving forward
You may have been doing this for so long that you are not even aware of it!
Or, you have been withdrawing since you were in high school, but now, with so many responsibilities, you can no longer just lock yourself in your room like you used to.
You now need to perform at work, provide time for your partner and may even have multiple kids tugging at your pants!
“I shutdown to avoid conflict.”
“I go to work each day, but feel empty.”
One constant is underlying them all:
“No matter how hard I try, I always feel I’m falling short. I’m failing my wife, my family, and myself.”
You hang out with your buddies and some of them connect with what you’re going through, offering advice. You appreciate the validation, but don’t think their solutions will practically help.
You’re stuck juggling all of your emotions alone.
It’s like you are single handedly pushing a boulder up a mountain.
What will it look like if you just let go for just a second?
A thought heavier than that boulder intrudes, “Would it be that bad if I didn’t wake up tomorrow morning?”
That thought scares you.
There’s a good chance that you grew up in a home that either “didn’t do” emotion or the opposite, overwhelmed you with it!
Either way, both scenarios made it feel too risky to comfortably share your emotions because of the risk of feeling invalidated.
Over time, you’ve learned to protect yourself by withdrawing and turning inwards to self-soothe.
Turning inwards has certainly had positive contributions to your resilience, helping you get to where you are today. But now, it may be handicapping you by causing distance in your relationships, anxiety, anger, or loneliness.
Being a man that has struggled with similar emotions myself, I am uniquely positioned to guide you to a better place.
In order to get to the root of the issues, we need to first map out and make sense of your emotional patterns.
In therapy, we will connect the dots on how your past experiences influence your present and then utilize techniques to let go of any negativity that is holding you down.
This will lead to optimizing your life through rewiring your inner self towards more calmness, better self-esteem, and effective communication.
Besides feeling better about yourself, you will marvel at how much you unilaterally could shift the dynamic of your important relationships.
Your newfound familiarity with empathy and emotions can pay major dividends!
The next day arrives. Your alarm clock buzzes. You feel lighter. Suddenly, you are not pushing that boulder all by yourself anymore.
It’s time to embrace your emotions. It’s time you were embraced.
You may have been doing this for so long that you are not even aware of it!
Or, you have been withdrawing since you were in high school, but now, with so many responsibilities, you can no longer just lock yourself in your room like you used to.
You now need to perform at work, provide time for your partner and may even have multiple kids tugging at your pants!
“I shutdown to avoid conflict.”
“I go to work each day, but feel empty.”
Do you ever find yourself thinking these confusing feelings?
One constant is underlying them all:
“No matter how hard I try, I always feel I’m falling short. I’m failing my wife, my family, and myself.”
You hang out with your buddies and some of them connect with what you’re going through, offering advice. You appreciate the validation, but don’t think their solutions will practically help.
You’re stuck juggling all of your emotions alone.
It’s like you are single handedly pushing a boulder up a mountain. What will it look like if you just let go for just a second?
A thought heavier than that boulder intrudes, “Would it be that bad if I didn’t wake up tomorrow morning?”
That thought scares you.
There’s a good chance that you grew up in a home that either “didn’t do” emotion or the opposite, overwhelmed you with it!
Either way, both scenarios made it feel too risky to comfortably share your emotions because of the risk of feeling invalidated.
Over time, you’ve learned to protect yourself by withdrawing and turning inwards to self-soothe.
Turning inwards has certainly had positive contributions to your resilience, helping you get to where you are today. But now, it may be handicapping you by causing distance in your relationships, anxiety, anger, or loneliness.
Being a man that has struggled with similar emotions myself, I am uniquely positioned to guide you to a better place.
In order to get to the root of the issues, we need to first map out and make sense of your emotional patterns.
In therapy, we will connect the dots on how your past experiences influence your present and then utilize techniques to let go of any negativity that is holding you down.
This will lead to optimizing your life through rewiring your inner self towards more calmness, better self-esteem, and effective communication.
Besides feeling better about yourself, you will marvel at how much you unilaterally could shift the dynamic of your important relationships.
Your newfound familiarity with empathy and emotions can pay major dividends!
The next day arrives. Your alarm clock buzzes. You feel lighter. Suddenly, you are not pushing that boulder all by yourself anymore.
It’s time to embrace your emotions. It’s time you were embraced.
"I highly recommend him to anyone wanting to connect or gain deeper perspective and understanding of life. He is unique in his ability to frame complex ideas and deeper ways of understanding things, and then break them down in a relatable, memorable way."
- J.G., Men's Therapy
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